Has your victim card expired yet? Are you SICK and TIRED of harping on old issues that continue to hold you hostage? Why do you think we hold past hurts in our hearts? I understand how one may consider these questions to be without empathy, however, the truth is emotional freedom can start with the thought of these very questions.
There is a unique difference of remembering what experiences a person has encountered then permanently incarcerating a horrid life episode in one’s memory. Over time, it is pointless to continue to hold on to the issues and the hurt associated with the said act. One reason forgiveness appears impossible is because many people have the notion that forgiveness is an act for the “abuser”. In reality, forgiveness is simply freedom for the “abused” and the beginning of a smooth healing process.
Generally, forgiveness is a decision to let go of resentment and thoughts of revenge. The act that hurt or offended you might always remain a part of your life, but forgiveness can lessen its grip on you and help you focus on other, more positive parts of your life. Forgiveness can even lead to feelings of understanding, empathy and compassion for the one who hurt you. (Mayo Clinic Staff, 2014)